"Tackle It Tuesday" Inspirational Tip on Temperament

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"Tackle It Tuesday" Inspirational Tip on Trust

Trust is an issue for many people - including me.

Here is a life lesson I learned about trust that has helped me to build stronger relationships.

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Time Management

There is a BIG difference between spending and investing.

Wouldn't you agree?

Well, this week's "Tackle It Tuesday" Inspirational Tip reminds us about these two concepts as it relates to time.

I know that when I invest my time, as opposed to spending it, I am more productive and I feel more fulfilled.

How about you?

Tell me your thoughts on this concept below after you watch this video.

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Intention

The reality of 2012 is here.

What lies ahead for you?

Well, I know for me, I plan to follow the advice of Wayne Dyer on intention in today's "Tackle It Tuesday" Inspirational Tip.

Even though I know this information, it is always good to be reminded of it.

How do you see this advice working in your life/career?

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FIVE WAYS TO RAISE YOUR SELF-ESTEEM

Recently, I was at a conference and was asked, “What did you do to raise your self-esteem?”

I was taken aback for a moment, because the question made me think, “Raising your self-esteem is a never-ending process.”

But then, I put the question into context. The question was asked because my colleague had recently learned about my past – a past where I lived a more shy and introverted life than I do today.

You see, when I was growing up as a child in the inner city of Chicago, I didn’t talk much. I was really quiet and shy. To top it off, I was a skinny kid with knocked-knees that got teased and talked about a lot. Can you imagine a tree branch with a smile? That was me.

I didn’t know it at the time, but my self-esteem was taking a major hit. Being talked about and disliked for reasons such as,

·         “She thinks she’s smart!” or

·         “You talk like you’re white.” or the infamous,

·         “Ooh, you’re so skinny,”

had made me skeptical to talk to people and even doubt who I was.

As I got older, I did come out of my shell more and more. However, it took instances such as my mother saying to me every morning before I went to school that if the teacher asked a question and I knew the answer I had better speak it. Or my godfather, who drove me to my first day of life as a college student, saying that if I did not want to be just a number at U of I, I had better speak up in my classes so that my professors got to know me as a student. I must admit that both of their advice helped my career as a student not to go down the toilet.

Yet, those were not the answers that I gave my colleague who wanted to know, “What did you do to raise your self-esteem?”

In the five-minutes or so we had left to chat on break, I quickly ran through my mind what I actually did to raise my self-esteem. Unbeknownst to me, there were five (5) specific strategies that had surfaced over time that allowed me to raise my self-esteem and become the woman I am today. Here’s a recap of the two strategies I shared with my colleague and the three that I later realized:

First, I had to learn to love me. The next morning after I was asked the question about the specific things I did to raise my self-esteem, this answer came to mind. With a flood of memories and realizations, I had to admit that learning to love myself was the ultimate strategy that allowed me to successfully and consistently raise my self-esteem. As a six year old child, it was interesting for me to see how people would like you or not like you because of the way you looked or sounded – which wasn’t always fair. The older I got, the more this point was proven to me time and time again. My self-esteem, like a roller coaster ride, rose high and dipped low based on what others thought and said about me. It wasn’t until I got out of college that I stumbled upon the importance of loving myself – from the good, to the bad, and even the downright ugly. The more I became aware of me and appreciated who I was, the less affected I was by what others thought of or said about me. When I learned to love me, I freed myself from the weight of other people’s opinions of me and opened myself up for being authentically and unapologetically me. 

Second, I had to connect to a success support system. This is one of the strategies I shared with my colleague that helped me to raise my self-esteem. I told him that throughout my life I was blessed to have been connected to some really cool teachers, mentors, and friends that thankfully were (and some still are) a part of my success support system. It didn’t matter if they naturally connected to me or if I specifically sought them out, it was through their advice, guidance, insight, and wisdom that I was able to boost my self-confidence, increase my self-awareness, and raise my self-esteem.

Third, I had to self-study. This particular strategy is an extension of the first and it simply means that I had to become self-aware. Thanks to self-study, I was led on a journey of uncovering more about me. Self-study helped to drive home a life lesson I got from my first job where I learned that you should never let anyone tell you something about yourself that you don’t already know. Self-study gave me the awareness that helped me to know and BELIEVE for myself the characteristics about me that made me proud to be me.

Fourth, I had to surround myself with inspiration and motivation. I told my colleague that this particular strategy became ingrained in my daily living. Books, music, sermons, workshops, magazines, seminars, audios, and TV shows became the many ways in which I brought inspiration and motivation into my life on a regular and consistent basis. I learned that reading motivational books and listening to inspirational messages became an essential ingredient to my mental, emotional, and spiritual growth. I discovered that hanging with friends, family, and mentors that added positive energy to my world through their intelligence, wisdom, humor, authenticity, honesty, and support was vital to me raising my self-esteem. 

Finally, I had to continue the process. This was a point that I alluded to when answering my colleague’s question. However, it wasn’t until the next morning that this particular point became very clear to me. As I recalled myself telling my colleague the ways I had raised my self-esteem, it dawned on me that I am still using those strategies today. Although I am not as shy, introverted, or skinny as I was as a kid, I still have people who talk about me and dislike me for who I am, what I do, and how I sound. The major difference between now and then is that I don’t let their opinions of me tear me down. 

Yet, that’s not the only reason why I’ve had to continue the process. Over the years, I’ve learned that challenges, obstacles, issues, and problems of life can take your self-esteem on a roller coaster ride, too. Learning to love me; connecting to a success support system; doing self-study; and surrounding myself with inspiration and motivation have been key factors in my overcoming, breaking-through, and resolving many challenges, obstacles, issues, and problems within my world.

I thank my colleague for asking me, “What did you do to raise your self-esteem?” because it gave me a chance to remember my past and how it has positively influenced my future. My self-esteem is very strong today because of all of the work I’ve done – and still do to maintain it at a healthy level.

How about you? What have you done to raise your self-esteem? 

Have you used any of the strategies I mentioned above? Or, have you used something different?

Tell me below what has worked for you with raising and maintaining your self-esteem.

I would love to hear from you.

New Year's Resolutions

In the first "Tackle It Tuesday" Inspirational Tip of 2012, I share with you a quote I found by Benjamin Franklin regarding New Year's Resolutions.

In my opinion, what he suggests is a much better way to have a resolution because it is a much more realistic resolution to keep.

What do you think?

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Happy New Year!

Goals

The 2011 year is almost over.

As you prepare for the new year to arrive, consider this quote on goals by Brian Tracy.

It is today's "Tackle It Tuesday" Inspirational Tip.

I know that I will continue to use goals - for this very reason - in both my personal life and within my career.

How about you?

Leave your comment below and enjoy your holiday.

Giving

This is the holiday season known most for the action of giving.

In today's "Tackle It Tuesday" Inspirational Tip, Arthur Ashe provides a quote that makes giving an extrememly important action for our lives.

I know when I first heard this quote, it gave me a completely different perspective on the philosophy that "it is better to give than to receive." 

This quote makes me much more conscious of what I'm giving out than what I'm taking in.

How about you?

How does this quote impact you?

Share your feedback with me below and enjoy your holiday.

Imagination

As a child, we are taught to use our imagination. 

But as an adult, we are taught to rely upon the knowledge we learn. 

In today's "Tackle It Tuesday" Inspirational Tip, Albert Einstein gives us his thoughts on imagination and knowledge.

What do you think?

Judgment

Wayne Dyer provided me with the inspiration behind today's "Tackle It Tuesday" Inspirational Tip.

I know that I have to be mindful of this point.

How about you?

What do you do to keep from judging others?

Leave your comment below under this week's video.

Gratitude

This week's "Tackle It Tuesday" Inspirational Tip is a reminder regarding gratitude.
 
During this year, I've experienced many trials and tribulations along with several successes and celebrations. For each and every one of them, I am grateful.

As I celebrate this Thanksgiving holiday with my loved ones, I am most grateful that we have a chance to come together again to enjoy each other's company.

And, that I will get a chance to enjoy another slice of homemade sweet potato pie!


How about you?

What are you most grateful for?

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Happy Thanksgiving!

Knowledge

Here is this week's "Tackle It Tuesday" Inspirational Tip.

While sitting in a seminar a few weeks ago, this thought hit me like a ton of bricks. 

Does this tip resonate with you? 

How so?